In Memory

Adam Hussain

10 Oct 2000 - 21 Jul 2017

Adam Hussain returned to his Lord, aged 16¾, following complications arising from an Asthma Attack in July 2017.

Like many young people in the UK Adam lived the life of a young carer for over a decade.  Adam spent over a decade caring for his younger brothers, 2 of which were born with additional needs and several years looking after his mother when she needed Dialysis. You can honour Adam's memory by donating towards children with disabilities in Kashmir, who until today didn't have an Adam to meet their care support needs. 

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About Adam  

Adam suffered from Asthma and Eczema since he was a child.  When Adam’s eczema would flare up, his family would send him to Kashmir during the summer holidays to help his skin heal. Even his illness, became a blessing, as it resulted in him making a dozen such trips in his lifetime, picking up a second language and helped him maintain a very close relationship with all his grandparents.

When he was 6 years old, his mother gave birth to triplets, two of which had additional needs from being born prematurely.  Since that day Adam has helped his mother look after his younger 3 brothers. Then in 2012, Adam’s mother was diagnosed with kidney failure, subsequently, she required 3 trips a week to hospital for dialysis.  During this time Adam aged 12 started shared caring dutes with his father and over time became the principal carer for his mother and his 3 younger brothers, so his father could return to work. He would make food, clean the house, wash and iron clothes, help his siblings get ready for school, whilst continuing his studies.

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his family) said: “Every righteous child who casts a look of mercy and affection upon his parents shall be granted, for every look of his, rewards equivalent to that of an accepted Hajj.”  Those around the Prophet questioned: “O’ Prophet of Allah!  Even if he were to look at them a hundred times a day?”  The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his family) replied: “Indeed!  Allah is the Greatest and Most Kind.”

At such a young age, Adam like many unappreciated young careers in the UK started earning the reward for looking after a parent.  He became his mother’s best friend, he became his mother's rock.  Over the years his mother was hospitalised, often taken via ambulance away from home.  Adam would get mums medicines, clothes and other essentials and have them ready for his dad to take to hospital whilst he looked after his siblings until friends or grandparents could make their way to help.

Adam displayed the characteristics typical in children that have been raised by grandparents, who unlike parents do not have the pressures of balancing the need to work and spend the time to teach their children good etiquette. He would always speak to elders politely, he was so used to doing a mothers’ chores, that he would ask guests, if they had eaten or wanted a drink and would sort out food, before being prompted.  

Then in 2016, Mum received a transplant, and by 2017 she was feeling better and was able to look after the younger children without any help.  So in his final year of GCSE’s his mother would ask him what he wanted to do with his life, and Adam began thinking about studying instead of working.   When he finished his GCSE’s Adam spent the weeks until his NCS cooking, cleaning and trying to make his mother happy.  

National Citizenship Service (NCS)

Adam told his family about NCS, and they encouraged him to go.  He would ring back often during his first week of outdoor activities, unable to contain the excitement of what he had done that day.  When he returned home over the weekend he said they were the happiest days of his life; he couldn’t thank his grandfather enough for encouraging him to go.   So it was a shock when we received a phone call that Adam had been admitted to Princess Royal Hospital, Telford, following an Asthma Attack in the second week, the week when they were doing classroom based activities.  

Despite the best efforts of the medics, On Friday afternoon Adam’s journey in this world had come to an end, but the support provided by the hospital didn’t end.  Mindful that Adam’s family were so far from home and faced the prospect of being delayed in bureaucratic limbo until Monday before his body could be released for transport.  All the staff went the extra mile to facilitate the release of Adam that evening.  All too often Medics forget that for every suffering patient, there are many distressed next of kin are suffering in silence. 

The conduct of all the staff; from the senior Doctors who conferred with the coroner and obtained permission to sign the certificate of death, to the nurses who promptly disconnected all the tubes and machines that had sustained Adams life so he would be ready to travel, to the bereavement team, the registrars, the porters and duty manager and countless others, was truly a credit to their profession.

Losing a loved one, is never easy, especially one so young, even now when I close my eyes, I can see his face, I can hear his voice eager with excitement to share an experience with me.  Tears roll down my eyes and I feel short of breath and then I remember the kindness displayed by complete strangers. 

LikeShahi Grill Chicken Kebabs & Curry House, on 35 Church Street, Telford, TF1 1DG, who had finished cleaning his takeaway and had switched his car lights on and was getting ready to leave when he saw me and asked why I looked so distressed.   I explained we were from out of town and not eaten all day because our child had been admitted to Telford Hospital.  He asked us to wait inside, and 40 minutes later, he served us freshly cooked food and then began the process of cleaning everything again.  

We would also like to extend our thanks to the Worcester Muslim Cemetery who upon being informed late Friday Afternoon about Adam’s passing sent representatives to Telford.  In around 2 hours they liaised with the hospital doctors, nurses, bereavement services, the registrar, the mortuary and undertakers to facilitate the release and transport of Adam to Worcester. By 4 pm the next day they had prepared the grave and ensured all the burial preparation had been completed.  

Suggestion Regarding Asthma

It is a sad statistic that UK children die from Asthma, in schools throughout the UK.   As a parent of a child who has been hospitalised multiple times for his Asthma who first qualified as a first aider, nearly 2 decades ago. I am acutely aware that my wife, who is a former nurse is able to distinguish between asthma related breathing problems from shortness of breath resulting from strenuous activity long before I can.  When in doubt I get my son to talk to her over the phone so she can listen to his breathing and she tells me if I need to go to the hospital.

With today’s technology, it is possible to measure Oxygen and pulse on smartphones or handheld Oximeters.  Adopting this as a screening procedure for Asthma sufferers would enable first aiders to raise concerns to medical professionals. So no other family has to go through what happened to Adam.

Adam’s Legacy

Finally, we would also like to thank NCS for all the support they extended the family during this, particularly difficult time.  We would hate for parents to discourage their children from taking part in NCS activities.  Adam couldn’t contain his excitement about his time at NCS, he made it clear it was the best week of his life.  He was so happy that he was persuaded by his family to go on NCS, and we choose to remember his NCS experience the way he relayed it to us.

We would ask those who met Adam through NCS, to honour his memory by “Paying It Forward”, both during their NCS and afterwards.  We would like to thank you all for making Adam’s NCS week so special.  If it hadn’t been for your individual contributions, your interactions with each other, the atmosphere that you all collectively created during your time at NCS.  Adam Hussain wouldn’t have been so happy during his time at NCS.  

We would like to thank APM-UK for giving Adam the opportunity to participate in NCS and for ensuring his last days in this world were in his own words his happiest.

Islam teaches that from birth all children begin to accumulate good deeds, and are free from sin until they reach the age of accountability.  Consequently, we all enter adulthood with zero sins and over decades worth of good deeds. Adam only lived a few years past the age of accountability, and he spent all of this caring for others, so don't be sad at his passing. We sit many tests in our life, some offer an opportunity for re-sit, but there is no re-sit for the test at the end of our life.

Pay it Forward

In Islam there is the concept of Sadaqah Jariyah, it is called the continuous charity.  There was a film called “Pay it Forward”, released in 2000, that illustrates this concept very well and I think it should be compulsory viewing for kids taking part in NCS.

Adam loved both the UK and Kashmir, he called both places his home.  He spent more than half his life caring for others and today there are hundreds of children in Kashmir, who like his mother and younger siblings have additional support needs that unlike their UK counterpart will go unmet. NCS has always been about instilling a sense of resilience in young people and giving them a “can-do-attitude” towards the obstacles young people face in life.  

We would like Adam legacy to be children in Kashmir being offered additional support to reduce the impact of their disabilities, so they are not dependent on others.   This would have been in accordance with how Adam lived his short life. In order to do this, we have approached Al Fatiha Global to create Fundraising Page, so that anyone who wants to “Pay it Forward” can give young people in Kashmir opportunities that do not exist in the UK.

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